Most of the time, I talk to you as though you’re the only person you have to support with your income. The reality is that many people support their parents to some degree. If your parents are still working, then you should find out if your parents have a pension. Will it be enough to support them through the final chapter of their lives? Or will they be looking at you to supplement or support them until the end?

I’m not an expert on family dynamics. All I know for sure is that every family is different, and each family has its own set of rules. My blog is about my views on personal finance. And one of my views is that you should ask yourself the following question: do your parents have a pension?

Whatever the answer, the next question to ask yourself is: Am I going to give them financial help once they stop working?

You need not share your answer with the class, but you should definitely keep it in mind as you do your own financial planning.

For my part, my father is deceased. My mom benefits from a spousal pension, her own pension, and various government supports. She’s been retired for over a decade now. Thankfully, she’s in her own home and she can pay her own bills. That said… I still watch for signs that she might be struggling on the financial end. I have to face the facts. Her pension payments are not keeping up with inflation. Even though inflation has been low until 2022, what few increases she’s had over the past 10+ years have been effectively wiped out by the roaring inflation we’ve seen in the past 12 months. Prices are not going to drop back to where they were a few years ago. This means that my mom’s fixed income is going to continue to buy her less and less as time goes on.

In my case, my remaining parent has a steady, reliable income that currently covers all of her expenses. And so far, I haven’t had to give her financial help during her retirement. During the time that she’s been retired, I’ve been saving and investing and building my non-employment cash flow. I really hope that I will be able to continue doing so until my own retirement, but… what if my mom needs financial help?

Like I said, she’s currently in her own home. That’s great! If she has to move into assisted care, her home can be sold to pay for it. That’s also great! If she lives long enough to exhaust the sale proceeds, then what? Am I going to move her into my home and hire caregivers? Where will the funds come from to pay for that kind of care? And how much money will be needed?

These are some of the things that I think about when planning for my own retirement.

Do your parents have a pension?

In my opinion, you should know the answer to this question. It should be factored in when you’re setting your own priorities. Whether you get along with your parents or not, you should have some idea of how much you’re willing to give to your parents if and when the time comes.

No One Talks About This!

It’s an unfortunate reality that this aspect of personal finance is rarely, if ever, discussed in the mainstream. Even in the personal finance sphere, I can only think of a few bloggers who ever discuss it openly. Journey to Launch and Rich&Regular are two who readily come to mind. The first time I heard the term “the Black Tax“, my curiosity was piqued. After learning more about it, I’m convinced that many families face this burden regardless of race. I also believe that the issue of pensionless parents is routinely ignored by the broader personal finance media.

There are countless stories about wealthy parents supplementing the salaries and down payments of adult children:

On the other side, there’s a dearth of reporting about adult children having to support their pensionless and/or low-income parents. There’s a deafening silence about how this type of financial obligation limits the opportunities for the next generation to build wealth and create financial security.

To be clear, I’m not telling anyone to abandon their parent(s) in order to be financially comfortable.

Unless the relationship is bad, (however you define that term), it’s assumed that children will do what what they can to alleviate a parent’s suffering. This is normal. It’s a sign of love. The other reality is that we live in a society where having money means having options and opportunities. If your money is spent today to care for your parents, then that money is not available for saving and investing. You may find yourself in the same situation as your parents in 20/30/40 years’ time because you chose not to invest for your own senior years.

My purpose with this blog post is to put these facts on the table for consideration. I’m simply urging you to consciously recognize that this is the choice that is being made. Ultimately, you’re the one who gets to make the choice, no matter how easy or difficult that choice may be. Do you want to spend the money today? Or do you want to invest it for tomorrow?

And if you want to do both, then what are your options for doing so?

  • You could go back to living with you parent(s). This isn’t feasible for everyone. However, it will work for some. Think about it.
  • You could get a second source of income and direct all of that income into your investments. Keep your expenses the same as they are now. Let that second income fund your future.
  • Help your parents downsize into a home that better fits their empty-nest status.

When it comes to making plans for your future, the first step is figuring out your priorities. For some of you, financially supporting your parents is or will be one of your highest priorities. Maybe you’re already helping your parents by sending them a few hundred or a few thousand dollars each month. If so, you should be planning on how to sustain those payments as you also try to save for your own future. It’s absolutely necessary that you understand how the decisions you make today will impact your ability to save for tomorrow.

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