Such a simple question, isn’t it?
“Can I afford it?”
At first blush, it seems ridiculous to even ask the question. It’s a yes or no question. Either you have the money or you don’t.
Appearances can be deceiving. Having the money is only the first part of the equation…
Okay, Blue Lobster – just what in the hell are you talking about now?
The question of affording something is much larger than the question of whether you have money. Making the purchase is relatively easy. Take out wallet – hand over cash – get what you want. Easy-peasy-lemon-squeezy!
Nope. Actually being able to afford something means knowing what it is that you really, really want.
What are your priorities for your money?
Prioritizing your money means that you get to say “Yes!” to some purchases while saying “No!” to others. You won’t be able to buy everything you want unless you’re a multi-gazillionaire. And if you are multi-gazillionaire, please let me know so that I can follow you on Instagram.
Let’s say your Fur-Baby needs an operation that costs $1200. Your pet is not suffering and the operation isn’t a emergency, but it is necessary. You’ve got 75% of the cost saved up and you’ve calculated that you can save up the rest over the next 6 weeks if you set aside $50 per week into your dedicated Fur-Baby Fund.
And let’s say you happen to be at the mall with a friend after a year-long week at work. There’s a very nice item on sale for $50. You like the item and you have $50 in your wallet.
Can you afford it?
You tell me. Your pet needs an operation and if you spend the $50 on the mall item, then you won’t have that $50 to put towards the Fur-Baby Fund. You’re the only person who can determine which priority is more important to you. Do you want to pay for the operation or the item at the mall?
Going into debt isn’t an option. Debt put you in chains to your creditors. Debt means committing money you haven’t yet earned to someone else for purchases made in the past. Relying on debt to make consumer purchases is a very bad idea. As you’ve heard me say before, debt is a financial cancer. There’s no need to ask for cancer by whipping out a credit card. Old-fashioned savings and delayed gratification will get you to your financial goals.
Now, knowing that you have $50 to spend, you have to decide: can you afford it?
Saying “No!” is a good thing.
Though only two letters long, this one word is a powerful weapon in your financial arsenal. Though small, this little word is mighty. If used correctly, it has the power to keep you on track towards your dreams.
It’s more than okay to say “No!” when asked to spend money in a manner that doesn’t align with your priorities. You work hard for your money and spending it on non-priority items is akin to lighting it on fire.
To be fair, there are times when it’s perfectly okay to say “Yes!” to spending your money. Should you be so fortunate as to have gobs and gobs of leftover money after your priorities have been funded, then you can probably fritter it away on non-priorities while still meeting your goals.
For the rest of us, frittering is a luxury that should only be indulged in sparingly. The more frittering that is done, the longer it will take to achieve our financial goals. And the less money we have, the more deleterious an impact frittering will have on our money priorities.
Never, ever let anyone bully you into making spending choices that don’t reflect what you truly want. This bring me to the Others.
Don’t let the Others determine your priorities.
There are a great many people out there who are willing to step into your wallet and disperse your money. I call these people The Others. Sometimes, the Others are easily identifiable. You’ll recognize them as the Ad Man and his trusty sidekick, the Creditor. More often than not, the Others take the form of our friends and family. Every so often, co-workers fall into this category too.
The Others have no qualms whatsoever about telling you how to spend your own money. It’s been my experience that the Others think that I should spend my money on their priorities. The very possibility that their priorities aren’t the same as mine is an utterly foreign concept to them.
One time, a friend of mine told me that I could afford a weekend trip to Las Vegas. Truth be told, I was floored by her audacity in opining about what I could afford to do with my money. It would have never occurred to me to tell her how to spend her money. In all honesty, the same thing has happened with members of my family.
Over the years, I’ve learned to ignore the Others’ exhortations to spend money. When I’m feeling generous, I tell myself that the Others just want the best for me. Or that they believe spending money will make me happy. When I’m not so generous, well… let’s just say that I don’t ascribe such kind motives to their opinions. The bottom line is this: I know what my priorities are, and I have a plan for my money. I don’t expect the Others to agree with, understand, or share my priorities. The Others’ opinions of my spending choices are irrelevant to my goals. Since I’m okay with ignoring their “advice”, I always know if I can afford to spend my money on something.
So….can I afford it?
The answer to the question is as simple as 1-2-3. One, determine your financial priorities. Two, use the word “No!” as often as needed so that your money goes where you want it to go. Three, ignore the Others since they most likely want to spend your money on what’s most important to them.
Once this framework is in place, you will be extremely adept at answering the question of whether you can afford it, whatever it happens to be.