This question recently came up, and I’ve been noodling on it ever since. My whole adult life, I’ve been following the habit of maxing out my RRSP, my TFSA, and saving another chunk of my paycheque in my non-registered investment account. However, yesterday, someone asked me what I was saving it all for and whether I would still be able to achieve my retirement goals if I saved slightly less and spent more money in my day-to-day.

Mind blown!

In all honesty, I have never seriously considered that possibility. When it comes to my own money, I’m very rigid and allow for little, if any, deviation from my money rules. I wanted to hit certain savings targets in my life, and I’m pleased to say that I’ve hit them. It simply never occurred to me that doing so would mean that I would be saving too much money.

Bridget Casey, Ramit Sethi, and Bill Perkins are three people whom I’ve started following online in the past few years. Each of them, in their own way, discusses the importance of operating from an abundance mindset instead of a scarcity mindset. All of them encourage their readers/followers to live a rich life today and to avoid putting off today’s happiness to save for tomorrow’s.

It was brought to my attention that, though I read those books, there’s a very, very, very teensy-weensy, itty-bitty, little chance that I might not be putting their advice into practice. It’s quite possible that I’m operating from a scarcity mindset. Maybe I’m operating out of a place of fear that I won’t have enough, despite all the evidence to the contrary? A very wise and very good friend has suggested to me that I’m in a position where I have enough invested for the future. (Truth be told, I’ve heard that same message or a variation thereof from other people who love me.) The suggestion was made that continuing to save for tomorrow will prevent me from having what I want today. My friend’s words threw me for a loop and I’ve been thinking about them ever since she uttered them.

So again, my question is can you save too much money?

This question leads me to more questions. According to calculations I trust, I will die with several million dollars in the bank if I stick to my current Rigid Rules. I’m a Single. No spouse, no kids. Strictly speaking, I have no natural heirs of my own issue. Does it make sense for me to die with that much money when I don’t have my own children? Isn’t there the slightest possibility that I could cut back on my saving right now and let my current investments ride? After all, I would still die with a nice fat cash-cushion, but I could have a little more fun along the way if I spent more of my money day-to-day.

Yet that viewpoint leads me to the next question that I think is important. Am I unhappy with how I currently spend my money?

My honest answer is that I’m not. In all honesty, when I want something, I buy it. Do I save for it first? Generally, yes – saving comes before spending. Do I stop or reduce my investment and retirement contributions to spend money? No, never. Is this a bad choice?

Until yesterday, I would have emphatically said “No – it’s not a bad choice.”

Today, I’m not so sure. If my retirement will still be quite comfortable, even if I spend a little bit more today, then does it make sense to continue with the same savings habit? Alternatively, should I be forcing myself to spend more money today just because I can?

The goal of life isn’t to simply die with a whole lot of money. Even I can appreciate that such a life is a wasted one. I don’t feel that I’m wasting my life by following my Rigid Rules. Right now, I go out with my friends. I travelled a lot before the pandemic. I spend a lot of time with my family. Buying what I want, when I want isn’t an issue. Could I spend more money on stuff for the sake of doing so? Sure, but I don’t want to fill my house with stuff that I don’t need or won’t use.

My whole life, I’ve been a money planner. I’ve been saving since I was a small child. My parents started us on an allowance. When I started working, I kept up the habit. Never once did I question whether I was doing the right thing by saving something from every paycheque. As my paycheques grew, so did the percentage that I saved and invested. Lifestyle inflation was never a problem for me. Living below my means has always be my guiding financial principle. I created a very large buffer between myself and the financial edge.

Now, I’m entering the second half of my life. The lessons that got me here might not be exactly the right ones to get me where I really want to be. It’s time for me to consider the possibility that I’ve moved into the “and” stage of my life. Up until now, I’ve always believed that I have to choose between various options. However, it’s starting to come to my attention that maybe there are situations where I don’t have to choose. Maybe I’ve reached a point where I can have both.

I can spend money today and still retire comfortably. It might be time for me to force myself to spend, in just the same way that I forced myself to save. Maybe I can cut my daily saving amount and still reach my financial goals. I get one life, and I want it to be as good as I can possibly make it. This means that I need to get back to assessing if what I’m still doing will continue to be the right choice. The strategies that I employed when I was younger may not be the strategies that will benefit me going forward.

Can you save too much money? The question will stick with me for a good while. I’m happy with how I live my life, but I have to consider the possibility that I could be happier. There’s a chance that I could be spending my money in a way that brings me more joy today while still ensuring that I’ll be taken care of tomorrow. And that’s the goal that I should be striving to fulfill.