Tag: Financial Security

It’s Okay to Keep Your Money

If you’re not already aware, then let me be the first to say the following: it’s okay to keep your money! You don’t have to spend all of it.

Now, you probably shouldn’t keep all of it either. After all, doing so means you won’t eat, nor have a roof over your heard or clothes on your back. Keeping every single penny of what you earn causes just as many problems as spending it all! A balance should be found as soon as possible.

Today’s post is based on my observation that there’s a goodly number of people out there who appear to operate on the belief that they simply must ensure that their expenses are equal to their income. I’m here to tell that such a belief is simply not true. It’s a formula guaranteed to keep you running in a hamster wheel for your whole life. Without keeping a little bit of your own money, you’ll never have the option of quitting whatever it is you’re paid to do now so that you can do whatever it is that you really want to do with your time.

You’re More than a Conduit

From what I’ve seen on a daily basis, there are many people who are little more than conduits between their paycheques and various retailers. These are people who work hard for their money, possibly at jobs they love and possibly not. They leave the comfort of their homes when they’d rather not. Nearly all are giving up time otherwise spent doing what they truly enjoy so that they can go to work and earn a paycheque. They’re foregoing sleep and health and time with friends & family all so that they can meet work obligations!

And then they turn around and spend every cent they’ve earned with barely a thought about the effort expended to earn it. I find this behaviour utterly baffling!

My comments are directed at those of you whose income don’t keep you on the absolute edge of solvency. I’m targeting those of you who can live well away from the edge yet you choose to put yourselves there. You work so hard for your money and you choose to spend it all.

Has no one told you that you don’t need to spend your money this way?

Again, it’s perfectly okay to keep your money.

Contrary to what the AdMan and the Creditor tell you every waking moment of your day, you’re not obligated to spend everything you earn. I will admit that the advertisements are enticing. Beautiful people are selling me everything from toothpaste to Tesla’s. Their sparkling white teeth and full heads of shiny hair inspire confidence that the products they’re hawking will complete my life. All I have to do is hand over my money and my life will be perfect.

It’s a seductive message.

Sadly, it’s also completely false! If we learned one thing from the Grinch by way of Dr. Seuss, it is this: happiness doesn’t come from the store!

Your Dreams Won’t Fund Themselves

So I say it again – it’s okay to keep your money! Put a portion of it away in an investment account so you can fund those years when your paycheque goes away. Create a few dream accounts! These are the accounts where you save up for those things that make your heart dance with joy. Maybe that’s a fancy cooking class. Perhaps it’s a trip to Greece. It might even be a fancy cooking class in Greece! You alone know what your truest desires are.

Yet, you won’t be able to fund those dreams and desires if you consistently spend every penny as fast as you can. The Hair & Teeth of Marketing aren’t going to help you achieve your goals. Their only objective is to persuade you to open your wallet. You have to believe me when I tell you that it’s okay to save your money for the things that you really want.

To be very clear, I’m not talking about people who have to devote their entire paycheques to rent and food. If you’re keeping it all together on a shoestring, then more power to you! The ones I’m talking about are those who have disposable income. They have some slack. If they had to take a pay-cut at work, they’d be able to stay in their current home and eat what they currently eat. Maybe they’d have to give up a few subscriptions, annual travel, and their plans to replace a 3-year old vehicle. Bottom line is that they would still have enough money to meet the survival expenses of food, shelter, and basic clothing.

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Weekly Tip: The 2019 RRSP contribution deadline is March 2, 2020. Make sure that you contribute something to your RRSP so that you have some cushion for your retirement years. Do not get trapped in analysis-paralysis. Make an RRSP contribution, preferably in an exchange-traded fund. Then leave the money alone for a long-time. While your RRSP-money is growing & compounding, your duty to Future You is to continue learning about investment options by reading books, blogs, magazines, websites, forums, stickies, and post-it’s. Learn as much as you can about this because it’s very, very important. Save-invest-learn-repeat.

A Simple Truth

“You can’t become financially independent with someone else’s money.” – Farnoosh Torabi of the So Money Podcast

The frankness of this statement amazed me.

While being interviewed by Jamila Souffrant at Journey to Launch, Ms. Torabi spoke of the need for women to control their own money. She posited that a woman without her own money could not truly be independent of someone else for her financial security.

I’ve been thinking about this idea for a while now, and I believe it wholeheartedly. A woman without her own money will always be dependent on someone else for her financial security – a parent, a spouse, the state. It’s not a great way to live, yet for millions of us it is a reality that we accept as easily as we accept that the sun rises in the east every morning.

Women who control their own money aren’t as rare as they once were but they’re not as common as they should be either. One of my friends was married to a very good-looking man who decided to stray. She decided that she wouldn’t tolerate that particular decision and they divorced. One of the reasons why she could make that decision was because she holds a professional degree. Her education allowed her to secure her own financial future – she could pay the mortgage, the nanny, the divorce lawyer, and all the costs associated with being a single mother raising babies. From a financial perspective, my friend was very okay because she was and continues to be financially independent. She doesn’t have to depend on anyone else’s money to live the life she wants to live.

Full disclosure – I’m a Singleton. While I hear about the debate between married people who share all of their money and the married people who keep things separate, it’s an academic discussion to me. I’ve never had to seriously consider whether I would share my money with another person.

Additional disclosure – the idea of sharing my money makes my stomach turn. And when I’ve considered why I’m so against the idea of co-mingling my money, it’s because I view that decision as increasing my risk instead of increasing my security. If I were a Singleton living paycheque-to-paycheque, or living in debt, then the idea of sharing another person’s wealth might be quite attractive. Similarly, if I could be certain that a partner’s views of money were compatible with my own and that he had also built up a nice-sized war chest while a Singleton, then the concept of a joint bank account wouldn’t cause so much anxiety for me.

Even without hearing it articulated, I’ve always known that having control of my money has meant that I retained the power to make independent choices about how to live my life. Since leaving my parents’ home, I’ve never had to ask for permission to spend a single dollar. I’ve never had to discuss a purchase with another person because the money was mine. I’ve never had to compromise with anyone about how to invest my money.

You see, I’ve always understood that having control of my money meant having more control over my future financial well-being. Even if I was married to the kindest, gentlest, most wonderful human being on the planet who took care of my every financial need, there’s no guarantee from anyone or anything that my Wonderful Human would be there forever. People die – people leave – people get kidnapped – people get sick – employment disappears – businesses fail – etc, etc, etc… If any of those things were to happen to my Wonderful Human, I would not want to be in a position where I had to worry about money while also dealing with the emotional grief that would inevitably accompany that loss.

By the same token, I always knew that I didn’t want to be forced to stay in a relationship just because of money. I didn’t want to be financially dependent on someone who was abusive to me, or who didn’t treat me kindly. I wanted to have the ability to walk away from any relationship that didn’t work anymore, or that wasn’t giving me what I needed. I never wanted to be financially dependent on anyone else because that would mean that they controlled my financial future. If they had the power to make the financial decisions for my life, then I would forever have to wonder when, or if, they would take away their financial largesse and give it to someone else.

I accept that there are no guarantees in life. However, I also accept that women can take steps with their money to build a solid financial foundation for themselves and that they should not look to others for financial security. Having money of her own means that a woman can make choices for her own best interests without worrying about how to accommodate the wishes of someone else. A woman with money can leave a bad situation, a bad job, a bad relationship without worrying how to feed, shelter, clothe herself. Money gives women the option to finance the basic necessities that they need without requiring them to depend on anyone else.

Ms. Torabi is right – you cannot become financially independent if you’re relying on someone else’s money.