This most excellent advice came to me from a highly trusted source – my mother.

While we were on our most recent vacation together, I asked her what she believed was the most important lesson to learn about money. In four words, she summed up the cornerstone of every personal finance blog I’ve ever come across: “Spend some, save some.”

For those of you who already peruse PF-oriented blogs, you’ll immediately recognize this alliterative wonder as the admonition to always live below your means. Living at your means, and living above you means, always ends with the result of not having any savings set aside for investing. My mother’s four little words are the bedrock upon which all wealth is built.

Please do not let her mantra mislead you. I can assure you that my mother is is not some penny-pinching old lady who resents the fact that she has to open her wallet. My mother loves fun! She enjoys her family and her friends – she entertains and she travels. My mother is the one who advises strangers at the casino to bet big money, if they can afford it, in order to score the big win. At the same time, my mother doesn’t have a mortgage on her home – she follows the stock market more diligently than seminary students study the scripture – she is always “finding” money that she didn’t know she had. And how does she accomplish this day after day, month after month, and year after year?

The woman lives by her mantra – spend some, save some. My parents were not rich people and they were not university-educated. They were regular people who didn’t earn big money. They had the same struggles as everyone else in raising their family and meeting their goals. When I was growing up, my father put my mother in charge of the household finances. Every two weeks, he got paid and he would sign his cheque over to her. (Back in the day, banks would cash signed cheques without too much fuss. For those of us who’ve known online banking our whole lives, trust me when I say it was a different world – today, no bank would ever do this for its customers!) When his company went to direct deposit, my father’s paycheque went straight into my mother’s bank account and they never fought about money. I’m not being cagey – my parents never had a joint bank account. His money went straight to her bank account, as did the money she earned from her job. It wasn’t until my first full-time job, as a bank teller, that I even realized that joint bank accounts were actually a thing!

So, every two weeks my mother got my father’s paycheque. And every month, she would write out what bills had to be paid. The money came in, the bills got paid, the groceries were purchased, the mortgage was serviced, long-term & short-term goals were funded. It worked like clockwork. Both of them had pensions, but they still ensured that they put money away in their RRSPs every year. They also wanted my brother and I to go to university, so every payday meant that $10 from my father’s paycheque went into our bank accounts so that we could buy Canada Savings Bonds each fall to finance our post-secondary education. As an aside, that $10 bi-weekly contribution grew to be substantial enough to cover 6 years of post-secondary for me and 9 years of post-secondary for my brother. We grew up in the 80s when inflation was high and Canada Savings Bonds were paying double-digit interest rates. Tuition was a lot cheaper in the 90s when we went to school, so our parents “little” investment plan allowed them to achieve one of their biggest goals for their family.

What other benefits came along with the “spend some, save some” philosophy?  If there was an emergency, the money was in the bank to pay for it. Renovations were made to the family home. Birthday parties took place every year without credit cards bills hanging around. There was always money for a movie and snacks with friends. Money was set aside for retirement accounts and investing accounts. (Investment accounts generated dividends that were invested, never spent!) An annual vacation was a given in our household. We spent many an hour in the car driving all over the place to visit family and friends, and to see this great big country of ours. Every few years, we’d even take a trip by airplane. The “spend some, save some” mantra meant that there was a balance between spending money now and spending money later. It also meant that there was always money somewhere: in a wallet, in the bank, in a retirement/investing/emergency account, in the change-jar in the corner of our kitchen.

We live in a world where the AdMan is always, always, always exhorting us to immediately cave to temptation. We’re encouraged to spend every penny we have, and even those we don’t, right away. Personally, I believe that the relentless tide of advertising is one of the many factors leading to the debt burdens of so many people. Adopting my mother’s mantra to “spend some, save some” and repeating it to myself every day is one way to fight back against the tide. It wasn’t until I was grown up that I realized just how well my parents managed their money – they had mastered the art how to live day-to-day while simultaneously saving money for both short-term and long-term goals. Thankfully, I’ve learned to do the same.

What about you? Have you made it a priority to “spend some, save some” in your life?