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Choices have consequences

This week, I had a conversation with a dear friend of mine about spending money. She made the observation that if she spends money today, then there’s that much money less to pay for her retirement. I couldn’t argue with her. In fact, I was happy that someone else in my circle of loved ones was thinking about their senior years. Sometimes, I feel like an outcast when I talk about money. It’s one of the reasons I like to chat about it online. It does me good to know that people in my real world are considering how to accumulate the gold for their golden years.

We live in a capitalist culture where we’re exhorted to spend every penny that we earn. Should our earnings not be enough, we’re strongly encourage to borrow money to spend beyond our means. Look around! Outside of the personal finance corner of the internet, there’s almost no discussion about saving money for emergencies, building up a retirement fund, and creating cashflow to replace your income. Instead the overwhelming message is to work hard, spend money, wake up, repeat.

I think this is a terrible way for people to live.

We were not given life just to work and spend money. Our lives should be about time spent with those we love best. We should be striving to spend as much time as possible engaged in the activities that bring us joy. I’m not convinced that we need to live on a never-ending work-spend-sleep treadmill to be happy. The beauty of financial freedom is that it’s a situation where work becomes optional. Being FI means spending your time as you see fit.

One of the universal truths is that choices have consequences.

I want you to think about what you want from your life. Now, ask yourself if your spending choices are getting you closer to or further from that life. If your choices aren’t getting you closer to the life you want to live, then explain to yourself why that is.

Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez of Your Money Or Your Life have taught us that money is the manifestation of your life’s energy. In short, you trade your life energy for money. It seems only logical that you spend your energy in ways that create the life that you want to live.

From what I’ve observed, people base their spending decisions on short-term thinking. They’re concerned with today, and possibly next week. They don’t really start to consider the long-term until they hit their late 40s, 50s, and sometimes 60s.

I get it. When I was a teenager, I brought home roughly $108 every two weeks from my part-time cashier job. My money went to dinners at Red Robins with my friends, followed by a movie. It was a simple life, and I never thought beyond my next paycheque. Long-time readers know that I had an automatic transfer in place so that $50 was squirrelled away to my savings account. If I could go back in time, I’d tell Young Blue Lobster to just put that money into a broad-based equity index fund (or exchange-traded fund), and then never look at it. The past 30 years have flown by! Had I started investing at 16 instead of 21, I’d probably be retired by now. I would certainly be financially independent.

However, that didn’t happen and I have to live with the consequences of my teen-aged choices. I’ve spend the last few decades teaching myself about investing. When necessary, I’ve tweaked my investment strategy. I’m forcing myself to ask harder questions, to analyze information more critically. I’ve finessed my money-management strategy to the point where it’s on auto-pilot and needs very little attention from me on payday. My choices from yesterday have resulted in both good and bad consequences for me. Had I made different choices, I would be living with different consequences.

Take some time to assess your money choices. Are the consequences of yesterday’s choices bringing you joy or misery? Maybe neither? Are you committed to making more informed choices in the future? What will you do today to get the consequences you want tomorrow?

The choice is yours.

Progress need not be Perfect!

When you know better, you do better…

from one wise soul to another, Maya Angelou to Oprah Winfrey

No one is born knowing how to invest. This is awesome news! It means that anyone can learn how to invest if they take the time to practice the skill. It also means that progress need not be perfect.

Much like walking, playing the piano, and mastering Candy Crush, the skills of investing must be practiced and honed before one becomes proficient at them.

I’m a huge fan of YouTube. As I was perusing the millions of videos on that platform, I came across one that was called “Vanguard or Fidelity – Which one is Better?”

And do you want to know something?

Yes, Blue Lobster. Please, tell us what you’re thinking.

My initial reaction to that post’s title was to scroll right past it. I’ve learned a little bit of wisdom on my relatively few revolutions around the sun. And one of those bits is that it’s best to just start investing, regardless of where you do so. Progress need not be perfect in order for you to achieve your dreams. Think of it this way – every journey starts with a single step but not every journey to the same destination requires the same number of steps. If a person needs to take a few extra steps to where she’s going, then she still gets there.

Focus on progress, not on perfection.

For example, we will look at the situation of an investor named One. Let’s say One decides to invest with Fidelity. (To be frank and open, I invest with Vanguard Canada. And no – I’m not being compensated for mentioning them in this blog post.) One sets up an account at Fidelity and creates an automatic transfer to have a fixed amount invested into an exchange traded fund every time One gets paid.

Superb! One has taken the very first steps towards investing for One’s own future.

Did One make the absolutely best choice for an investment account? It’s hard to say without knowing if One spent hours doing the research to determine the management expense ratios, various fees, product offerings, and account features from all of the investing companies that One could have chosen.

What we do know with certainty is that One did not delay her progress by staying in the quagmire created by analysis-paralysis. One made the smart choice by focusing on progress, rather than trying to achieve perfection. One is taking action by accepting the maxim that progress need not be perfect.

There’s no doubt in my mind that a perfect, best account does exist somewhere out there. I’m just not certain that it makes sense to waste more than 3-4 hours looking for it. The ultimate objective is to start investing your money; it’s not “to open the perfect, best investment account.” Keep your eyes on the prize! No one is going to pat you on the back for opening the absolute best and perfect investment account if it takes you 2 years to find it after sifting through all the options. The best and perfect account doesn’t actually help you if you never actually open it and make an investment.

Again, progress need not be perfect. I know a baby who has just started to walk. He’s only been doing it for a few weeks, but he’s focused on progress, not on perfection. At first, he could only stand and would fall down every time he moved his head. A week later, he could walk ten steps unaided. The next time I saw him, he would walk slowly…and drop down to crawl if he had to get somewhere quickly. (The kid’s got a great big brain and understands that sometimes speed is of the essence!) The last time I saw him, this kid was very nearly walking like a champ – moving his head, going further distances, turning around without falling down too much. In another six weeks, crawling will have long been forgotten as a preferred method of travel.

The first time you walked, you fell down after a few steps. You didn’t let that stop you, did you? No, you didn’t! Instead, you tried again and again and again and again until you could do it. Without knowing you personally, I’m willing to bet that you’re now quite a proficient walker. The same principle applies to investing.

Always be learning while making progress.

Be like a baby – save and invest your money with the perspective that progress need not be perfect!

You see, there’s nothing stopping you from continuing to research investment accounts once you’ve started investing. Save-invest-learn-repeat. You are free to keep learning after you’ve made an investment.

Again, full-disclosure, I invest with BMO Investorline. And, again, I’m not getting compensated for mentioning them. Yet just because I invest with BMO Investorline doesn’t mean that I haven’t also research Scotia I-Trade, Questrade, RBC Direct Investing, or any other investing platform/company. (I’m not being paid for mentioning these platforms.)

Further, I have no idea if BMO Investorline is the ultimate, best and perfect option for me. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is that I am automatically investing in very inexpensive exchange traded funds and earning big dividends every month. And even though I’ve been with BMO Investorline for years, I would switch my investment portfolio in a heartbeat if I found a platform that better suited my needs for a lower price.

If One discovers that Vanguard Canada offers a more suitable range of investments products than Fidelity, then One is not in any way prevented from moving One’s investment account from Fidelity to Vanguard Canada.

Procrastination is the enemy of progress.

When it comes to investing your money, procrastination is extremely detrimental to achieving your financial goals. The reason why it is so bad is because you have a finite amount of time in which to grow your money. Money needs to be invested so it can compound. And compounding is most effective over long periods of time. Ergo, start investing your money right now so that it has as long as possible to compound.

Don’t let analysis-paralysis stop you from taking action today!

Your progress need not be perfect in order for you to reach your goals. Lord knows that my investment path hasn’t been smooth, nor will it ever be exalted as the absolutely correct path to take. If anything, my investment story should be viewed as a cautionary tale for fellow investors. However imperfect my journey has been, the fact that I started when I was 21 and have consistently invested my money for the past 2.5 decades has been a key factor in me pursuing and achieving my goals.

Neither you nor I can get to where we want to go without making some kind of progress. So we have an obligation to ourselves to keep moving forwards. Whether that’s listening to a podcast, reading a book, following a blog, or using trial-and-error, doing any or all of these things will lead us closer to taking action. And taking action is how we will progress towards making our dreams come true.

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Weekly Tip: Don’t pay for memberships or subscriptions if they’re no longer making your happy. As much as we might like to believe it, peer pressure didn’t end when we graduated from high school. Review your monthly expenses. How many things are you paying for simply because your friends are paying for them? If those things are no longer bringing you joy, then stop paying for them.

Can I Afford It?

Such a simple question, isn’t it?

“Can I afford it?”

At first blush, it seems ridiculous to even ask the question. It’s a yes or no question. Either you have the money or you don’t.

Appearances can be deceiving. Having the money is only the first part of the equation…

Okay, Blue Lobster – just what in the hell are you talking about now?

The question of affording something is much larger than the question of whether you have money. Making the purchase is relatively easy. Take out wallet – hand over cash – get what you want. Easy-peasy-lemon-squeezy!

Nope. Actually being able to afford something means knowing what it is that you really, really want.

What are your priorities for your money?

Prioritizing your money means that you get to say “Yes!” to some purchases while saying “No!” to others. You won’t be able to buy everything you want unless you’re a multi-gazillionaire. And if you are multi-gazillionaire, please let me know so that I can follow you on Instagram.

Let’s say your Fur-Baby needs an operation that costs $1200. Your pet is not suffering and the operation isn’t a emergency, but it is necessary. You’ve got 75% of the cost saved up and you’ve calculated that you can save up the rest over the next 6 weeks if you set aside $50 per week into your dedicated Fur-Baby Fund.

And let’s say you happen to be at the mall with a friend after a year-long week at work. There’s a very nice item on sale for $50. You like the item and you have $50 in your wallet.

Can you afford it?

You tell me. Your pet needs an operation and if you spend the $50 on the mall item, then you won’t have that $50 to put towards the Fur-Baby Fund. You’re the only person who can determine which priority is more important to you. Do you want to pay for the operation or the item at the mall?

Going into debt isn’t an option. Debt put you in chains to your creditors. Debt means committing money you haven’t yet earned to someone else for purchases made in the past. Relying on debt to make consumer purchases is a very bad idea. As you’ve heard me say before, debt is a financial cancer. There’s no need to ask for cancer by whipping out a credit card. Old-fashioned savings and delayed gratification will get you to your financial goals.

Now, knowing that you have $50 to spend, you have to decide: can you afford it?

Saying “No!” is a good thing.

Though only two letters long, this one word is a powerful weapon in your financial arsenal. Though small, this little word is mighty. If used correctly, it has the power to keep you on track towards your dreams.

It’s more than okay to say “No!” when asked to spend money in a manner that doesn’t align with your priorities. You work hard for your money and spending it on non-priority items is akin to lighting it on fire.

To be fair, there are times when it’s perfectly okay to say “Yes!” to spending your money. Should you be so fortunate as to have gobs and gobs of leftover money after your priorities have been funded, then you can probably fritter it away on non-priorities while still meeting your goals.

For the rest of us, frittering is a luxury that should only be indulged in sparingly. The more frittering that is done, the longer it will take to achieve our financial goals. And the less money we have, the more deleterious an impact frittering will have on our money priorities.

Never, ever let anyone bully you into making spending choices that don’t reflect what you truly want. This bring me to the Others.

Don’t let the Others determine your priorities.

There are a great many people out there who are willing to step into your wallet and disperse your money. I call these people The Others. Sometimes, the Others are easily identifiable. You’ll recognize them as the Ad Man and his trusty sidekick, the Creditor. More often than not, the Others take the form of our friends and family. Every so often, co-workers fall into this category too.

The Others have no qualms whatsoever about telling you how to spend your own money. It’s been my experience that the Others think that I should spend my money on their priorities. The very possibility that their priorities aren’t the same as mine is an utterly foreign concept to them.

One time, a friend of mine told me that I could afford a weekend trip to Las Vegas. Truth be told, I was floored by her audacity in opining about what I could afford to do with my money. It would have never occurred to me to tell her how to spend her money. In all honesty, the same thing has happened with members of my family.

Over the years, I’ve learned to ignore the Others’ exhortations to spend money. When I’m feeling generous, I tell myself that the Others just want the best for me. Or that they believe spending money will make me happy. When I’m not so generous, well… let’s just say that I don’t ascribe such kind motives to their opinions. The bottom line is this: I know what my priorities are, and I have a plan for my money. I don’t expect the Others to agree with, understand, or share my priorities. The Others’ opinions of my spending choices are irrelevant to my goals. Since I’m okay with ignoring their “advice”, I always know if I can afford to spend my money on something.

So….can I afford it?

The answer to the question is as simple as 1-2-3. One, determine your financial priorities. Two, use the word “No!” as often as needed so that your money goes where you want it to go. Three, ignore the Others since they most likely want to spend your money on what’s most important to them.

Once this framework is in place, you will be extremely adept at answering the question of whether you can afford it, whatever it happens to be.

Priorities

Based on my own experience and decades of observation, I am convinced without a shadow of a doubt that priorities guide how we spend money. To paraphrase Paula Pant at www.affordanything.com, every spending decision you make is based on priorities because choosing to spend on one thing means that you’re not spending on something else. I think a lot of personal finance problems could be solved if people created their own priorities, but they don’t. Many people allow others to set their priorities for them, whether through marketing or peer pressure or societal expectations. People adopt the priorities of others and spend their money accordingly. Sometimes, this method works for them and sometimes it doesn’t.

Ideally, you create your own set of priorities and you’re in a position to pursue them with the support of your friends and family. I haven’t always been so lucky.

After I finished university and started my first professional job, my closest friends would give me a hard time about how I chose to spend my money. In short, they didn’t like the fact that I didn’t spend money on things that didn’t matter to me. They felt entitled to tell me that I “could afford it” – whatever “it” happened to be at the time. I heard their message loud and clear: my spending choices weren’t the “right” ones in their eyes. At the time, I had student loan debt. I had car debt. I owed money on my mortgage. I chose to allot my paycheque to various spending categories and I was very rigorous about paying down my debt while starting to save for my retirement. These were my priorities, and my closest friends at the time didn’t share or respect them.

Only one friend understood my priorities and supported me wholeheartedly. The vast majority of my closest friends did not. They were definitely more spend-y than I was but I couldn’t let their spending choices derail mine. What was my solution? Well, I didn’t get rid of those friends and I still spend time with them today. Over time, I simply stopped talking to them about my priorities and my money. In essence, I cut them out of the financial part of my life because I didn’t trust them to respect my personal goals and dreams. My goals were to establish a habit of saving for retirement, to pay off my student loans, to pay off my car loan, and to pay off my mortgage as fast as humanly possible. I only had so much money to work with and I wasn’t going to let their opinion that I “could afford it” derail me from focusing on my priorities. I was the only person who knew what my goals were and how I wanted to spend my money to achieve them.

Over the years, I read personal finance books and discovered the world of personal financial bloggers. It was in the books and the blogs that I found a niche where my priorities were the norm, where my goals were supported, and where strategies to achieve my hopes and dreams were shared by people who had already achieved similar hopes and dreams. As a result of what I learned from the books and the blogs, I was completely debt-free by age 34 and had achieved a solid six-figure net worth. By the time I was 40, I’d entered the double-comma club.

I also strengthened my relationship with that one friend who’d totally understood my desire to get out of debt and to pay cash for everything. We talked about money and shared what we learned. I remember when she confided to me that she and her husband would put off any and all purchases to the last possible moment in order to focus on paying off their mortgage. I was as excited as she was when they hit that milestone, just as she had been thrilled for me when I became debt-free at age 34.

It took me many years to craft a money system that funds my priorities with minimal decision-making on my part. Right now, I use automatic transfers to ensure that a portion of each paycheque is allocated towards each of my priorities.

– Retirement accounts? Check.

– Investment portfolio? Check.

– Emergency fund? Check.

– Utilities, property taxes, insurance premiums? Check

– Charitable donations? Check.

– Day to day spending? Check.

– Saving for next vehicle? Check.

– Saving for travel? Check.

– Saving for home renovations? Check.

These are the priorities that I have defined for myself and I have honed them over the years. I’ve learned to put very little weight on the priorities that others try to set for me. Their priorities won’t make me happy, but they will drain my wallet and get me into debt. I don’t want that for myself so I stick to what I know will get me closer to the life I want to live.

Over the years, there have been many times when I’ve had to re-order my priorities to ensure that I was doing what I really and truly wanted. Even today, I’m debating with myself about whether travel is more important than home maintenance.

I love travel, but I also need to renovate my basement bathroom and laundry room. These rooms aren’t in complete disrepair, but they will be if I don’t do something in the next 3 years. However, I realize that if I want to see, taste, touch as much of the world as possible then I have to get out there and do it. These priorities are both important to me right now and I see them in my mind’s eye as the two ends of a pendulum. I’ve been trying to figure out how to pay for both in 2019 and it’s just not going to happen unless I win the lottery or discover that a wildly-benevolent stranger has left me a sizeable bequest. I have to pick one priority over the other. In other words, one of the two is going to take a higher priority for me in 2019. I will still accomplish both goals, just not at the same time. I only have so much money and I refuse to go into debt, so something has to wait until I have the cash on hand to make the purchase. Right now, the pendulum is swinging towards the home renovation…but there’s a very good chance that it could swing back towards travel. All I am certain of right now is that one of my two priorities will be satisfied with the cash that I save up in the next year or so.

I’m not perfect, but I am definitely older and wiser now. I have to bite my tongue until it bleeds when I see others making what I view as “bad decisions” with their money. I remind myself that they’re spending their money in line with their personal priorities and that they’re under absolutely no obligation to have the same priorities that I do. Until they ask me what I think of their choices, I keep my opinions to myself. I do not want to do to my friends what was done to me because I didn’t like the feeling of knowing that I didn’t have their support. I don’t have to agree with my friends’ priorities and spending choices, but I do have to respect them.

The world isn’t ideal and you can’t always count on others to support your hopes and dreams. All you can do is figure out what you really want and go get it.