One of the biggest downfalls of the online personal finance community is the lack of balance. I suppose that’s partly due to the fact that we’re all competing for eyeballs on the screen, and extreme headlines garner more attention. It’s unfortunate though. I think more people would be willing to consider pursuing FIRE if they understood that an important element is finding the balance.

God bless him, but Jacob Fisker’s desire to live on $7,000 per year is not one that holds any appeal to me. That level of frugality makes me a little ill. Even the idea of being “face-punched” – popularized by a grand-daddy of FIRE, Mr. Money Mustache – isn’t particularly enticing. Fret not – I do understand the phrase is a metaphor. It’s meant to remind you that stupid decisions with money are just as painful as being hit in the face.

To each their own, right?

Well… maybe. Personally, I think that pursuing financial independence would benefit many people. In a society that abhors unionized labor, pursuing financial independence is the only way for employees to gain some measure of power in the workforce. At the end of the day, business owners need employees. It’s a power-dynamic that is ripe for abuse and exploitation when one party desperately needs money. You – or any employee – can minimize the risk of experiencing such exploitation by pursuing financial independence. When you have the financial resources to walk away from your job, you’re tilting the power dynamic back in your favour. I think that this is a good thing.

At a bare minimum, financial independence gives you choices. In our capitalistic society, financial independence is as much a status symbol as anything else. It’s a signal that someone has enough resources to spend their time how they wish. And isn’t that one of the biggest draws of being rich? Not having to do what someone else tells us to do?

The reality for all of us is this. We each only get one life and finding the balance is key to living a good one. That’s why it’s important to spend some of your money today.

Look, I know that I spend a lot of time telling you to save and invest your money for the long-term. There’s no denying that I think you owe it to Future You to create a sizeable investment portfolio. At the same time, I don’t ascribe to the belief that investing money should be a goal unto itself. Money is pointless if you’re not going to spend it.

Furthermore, no one is promised tomorrow. You have no guarantee that you will be alive in 5-10-25 years to enjoy all the money that you accumulate in the interim. By finding the balance, you’ll be able to spend some of your dollars today on the things that make you smile.

Of course, you should always invest part of your paycheque for the future. I’ll never change my mind about that. What I also want you to do is shave a little bit from each paycheque to spend today. Make no mistake! I don’t want you spending money needlessly. Rather, I’m suggesting that you spend on things that truly make you happy.

Consider taking the advice of Ramit Sethi – ruthlessly cull expenses from your life that don’t bring you joy and spend freely on the ones that do. To me, finding the balance means diligently adhering to my mother’s advice to spend some, save some.

It’s taken me a long time to learn that there has to be a balance. Like I mentioned above, each of us gets one life. We owe it to ourselves to make it as good as we possibly can. It’s important to find ways to enjoy the journey while planning for the future.

The balance is different for each of us. What brings you joy might generate indifference in someone else. No matter. Do what you must to find the balance in your own life.

*** My comments are not meant for those living on low incomes. Obviously, those on low incomes are doing what they can to survive. I don’t have the answer to the plight of the working poor. Telling low income workers to simply “earn more money” isn’t effective. It’s insulting. If they could, they would.